Greetings. I’ve been absent for much longer than expected. As I mentioned at the end of my last post, my website needed updating. This upgrade was required because of the evolution of the technical infrastructure underlying my site. When retrieving this blog, you likely observed the new look-and-feel. If you find any errors I missed,… Continue reading Being Trans is Not a Choice
Category: Uncategorized
Cisgender Healthcare Needs
I thought I’d start my writing this time with a quote from Clay Stafford that well describes my goal for this blog. Clay has had an eclectic career, as an author, filmmaker, actor, composer, educator, public speaker, and staunch supporter of other writers. On his website in December (claystafford.com), he said: “I align my essays… Continue reading Cisgender Healthcare Needs
A Year of Chaos (Why I‘m so tired)
Sometimes chaos doesn’t look that bad up close. But patterns can be recognized from afar. This past year definitely fit a pattern of chaos. The ‘year’ of which I speak started on November 3rd, 2023. On this day I began -to share Marcie with my stepmother and siblings. The process of publishing my book, “Inside… Continue reading A Year of Chaos (Why I‘m so tired)
My Sexual Orientation Journey*
This blog post will use background information, concepts and definitions, from “Inside my Husband’s Closet1 to explore my self-perceived sexual orientation. Am I heterosexual because sexual orientation can’t be change? Am I lesbian since my spouse is now a woman? Or am I something else? For most of my life I considered myself heterosexual. Once… Continue reading My Sexual Orientation Journey*
Pictures of the Past
This blog will explore the management of pictures of your spouse from before they began presenting as trans. I will not address pictures of kids or teens as they are dealing with different issues and this is not an area in which I have experience. This content comes more from my memory and conversations with… Continue reading Pictures of the Past
Appearance after FFS (2)
This post is a follow up to my first one on Appearance after Facial Feminization Surgery. This one focuses on my wife’s second surgery, the procedures done on her lower face included modifications to her jaw and chin, as well as cheek implants. I began to write this six weeks after her surgery and finished… Continue reading Appearance after FFS (2)
Use of Pronouns and Misgendering
The current controversy over the use of pronouns is not the first time, nor probably the last time, this country will disagree on the proper way to address a given individual. I happen to be of an age that I remember when the term Ms. came into vogue in the 1970s. Some people refused to… Continue reading Use of Pronouns and Misgendering
This Stuff is Hard
Some folks have said they’re surprised I’m not more stressed, not put out by Marcie’s changes. This impression could be because when I talk to others I stress the good things that have happened. I emphasize how I’ve adapted and adjusted because I love her. Marcie rarely says, “thank you”, but she often says, “I’m… Continue reading This Stuff is Hard
Social Transitioning
Marcie and I left the mid-west almost two years to the day of her coming out to me. During the first year she dressed only at home or in anonymous fashion out in public, avoiding place where we might encounter someone we knew. She considered what she was doing to be cross dressing. Later [421]… Continue reading Social Transitioning
Introduction
Greetings. I am the wife of a transgender woman who has been out to me since July 2020. The primary purpose of this blog is to provide information on the challenges I encountered and continue to encounter while on this journey toward understanding my spouse’s change in gender identity. Even after almost four years my… Continue reading Introduction
Cheryl B Thompson 