On July 17th, after much pushing from me, Marcie went to see her nurse practitioner for a cough that wasn’t resolving. Late that afternoon her provider called and told us her CT Scan showed stage 4, metastatic, lung cancer. On the morning of July 28th, she passed away, with one last easy breath. She was in our living room with our two children and her sisters present. Yes, you read that correctly, eleven days from diagnosis to her death.
Author: Cheryl
Hiatus
Greetings. It’s been almost five and a half years since I began writing about Marcie’s journey from male cross dresser to female. In the beginning I journaled. The first year I wrote over 73,000 words. I turned those words and many more into a book. While waiting for publication, I began to blog. My first… Continue reading Hiatus
Why I Stay
Cisgender Voices was started near the time when “Inside My Husband’s Closet”1 was published. The book focused on my experiences during the first year after Marcie began to cross dress but still considered herself a male. Cisgender Voices was initiated to focus on life after that first year, as her gender identity began to morph.… Continue reading Why I Stay
Expansion on the Idea of the ‘Pink Fog’
I recognize I have released this post much later than anticipated. The reason for this is that on August 21st a car rear ended me when I was stopped at a light. The impact of the collision centered on my lower back and pelvis and moved these bones out of alignment. My chiropractor continues to… Continue reading Expansion on the Idea of the ‘Pink Fog’
Our Own Needs
All of us, and maybe those who are cisgender partners to transgender folk more than others, must pay attention to our own needs. As with putting on our oxygen mask first, before helping someone beside us, we should insure we maintain our own mental and physical health. Our job is not easy. We have a… Continue reading Our Own Needs
Updated Suggestions for Surviving Gender-Affirming Surgery
I had originally planned for this post to continue with the previous discussion of the Pink Fog. However, Marcie had a surgical repair of her right rotator cuff last Thursday. From that experience l learned a few things that may be of value before your spouse has any type of surgery. These fresh thoughts seemed… Continue reading Updated Suggestions for Surviving Gender-Affirming Surgery
The Pink Fog
“The Pink Fog” was one of the first words/phrases I heard when examining online resources referencing the experience of being trans gender. The overarching impact of the Pink Fog is an impairment in one’s decision making capability. The most commonly mentioned behavior was that of shopping sprees without boundaries, regardless of financial or other considerations.… Continue reading The Pink Fog
Intermission
The author reflects on their evolving acceptance of Marcie, a trans woman and their wife, over nearly five years. Initially unsure, the author now feels peace and understanding in their relationship, realizing that acceptance takes time. They aim to share their journey to encourage others facing similar transitions, emphasizing hope and resilience.
Being Trans is Not a Choice
Greetings. I’ve been absent for much longer than expected. As I mentioned at the end of my last post, my website needed updating. This upgrade was required because of the evolution of the technical infrastructure underlying my site. When retrieving this blog, you likely observed the new look-and-feel. If you find any errors I missed,… Continue reading Being Trans is Not a Choice
Cisgender Healthcare Needs
I thought I’d start my writing this time with a quote from Clay Stafford that well describes my goal for this blog. Clay has had an eclectic career, as an author, filmmaker, actor, composer, educator, public speaker, and staunch supporter of other writers. On his website in December (claystafford.com), he said: “I align my essays… Continue reading Cisgender Healthcare Needs