Cisgender Voices was started near the time when “Inside My Husband’s Closet”1 was published. The book focused on my experiences during the first year after Marcie began to cross dress but still considered herself a male. Cisgender Voices was initiated to focus on life after that first year, as her gender identity began to morph.… Continue reading Why I Stay
Category: Transitioning
Expansion on the Idea of the ‘Pink Fog’
I recognize I have released this post much later than anticipated. The reason for this is that on August 21st a car rear ended me when I was stopped at a light. The impact of the collision centered on my lower back and pelvis and moved these bones out of alignment. My chiropractor continues to… Continue reading Expansion on the Idea of the ‘Pink Fog’
Updated Suggestions for Surviving Gender-Affirming Surgery
I had originally planned for this post to continue with the previous discussion of the Pink Fog. However, Marcie had a surgical repair of her right rotator cuff last Thursday. From that experience l learned a few things that may be of value before your spouse has any type of surgery. These fresh thoughts seemed… Continue reading Updated Suggestions for Surviving Gender-Affirming Surgery
Cisgender Healthcare Needs
I thought I’d start my writing this time with a quote from Clay Stafford that well describes my goal for this blog. Clay has had an eclectic career, as an author, filmmaker, actor, composer, educator, public speaker, and staunch supporter of other writers. On his website in December (claystafford.com), he said: “I align my essays… Continue reading Cisgender Healthcare Needs
Pictures of the Past
This blog will explore the management of pictures of your spouse from before they began presenting as trans. I will not address pictures of kids or teens as they are dealing with different issues and this is not an area in which I have experience. This content comes more from my memory and conversations with… Continue reading Pictures of the Past
Appearance after FFS (2)
This post is a follow up to my first one on Appearance after Facial Feminization Surgery. This one focuses on my wife’s second surgery, the procedures done on her lower face included modifications to her jaw and chin, as well as cheek implants. I began to write this six weeks after her surgery and finished… Continue reading Appearance after FFS (2)
Appearance After FFS (Facial Feminization Surgery) (1)
As with all of my blogs I share them with Marcie prior to publication. She often has valuable input but has never asked that I not include ideas that may be uncomfortable to one or both of us. This particular topic had a greater potential of creating anxiety in her due to my blunt honesty.… Continue reading Appearance After FFS (Facial Feminization Surgery) (1)
Social Transitioning B
After loading my last post into WordPress and reading it again, I realized I’d brought forth too much of my academic side to the discussion. I basically described how Marcie socially transitioned, not how I felt about it. I thought about editing the first blog to introduce more emotion but I liked the former ending… Continue reading Social Transitioning B
Social Transitioning
Marcie and I left the mid-west almost two years to the day of her coming out to me. During the first year she dressed only at home or in anonymous fashion out in public, avoiding place where we might encounter someone we knew. She considered what she was doing to be cross dressing. Later [421]… Continue reading Social Transitioning
Cheryl B Thompson 