All of us, and maybe those who are cisgender partners to transgender folk more than others, must pay attention to our own needs. As with putting on our oxygen mask first, before helping someone beside us, we should insure we maintain our own mental and physical health. Our job is not easy. We have a… Continue reading Our Own Needs
Category: Stress
Updated Suggestions for Surviving Gender-Affirming Surgery
I had originally planned for this post to continue with the previous discussion of the Pink Fog. However, Marcie had a surgical repair of her right rotator cuff last Thursday. From that experience l learned a few things that may be of value before your spouse has any type of surgery. These fresh thoughts seemed… Continue reading Updated Suggestions for Surviving Gender-Affirming Surgery
A Year of Chaos (Why I‘m so tired)
Sometimes chaos doesn’t look that bad up close. But patterns can be recognized from afar. This past year definitely fit a pattern of chaos. The ‘year’ of which I speak started on November 3rd, 2023. On this day I began -to share Marcie with my stepmother and siblings. The process of publishing my book, “Inside… Continue reading A Year of Chaos (Why I‘m so tired)
Pictures of the Past
This blog will explore the management of pictures of your spouse from before they began presenting as trans. I will not address pictures of kids or teens as they are dealing with different issues and this is not an area in which I have experience. This content comes more from my memory and conversations with… Continue reading Pictures of the Past
Appearance after FFS (2)
This post is a follow up to my first one on Appearance after Facial Feminization Surgery. This one focuses on my wife’s second surgery, the procedures done on her lower face included modifications to her jaw and chin, as well as cheek implants. I began to write this six weeks after her surgery and finished… Continue reading Appearance after FFS (2)
Isolation
My sister called me a week ago (May 2024) to say she’d read my book. She expressed appreciation for how hard this revelation must have been, but then focused on the feelings of isolation that came through in my writing. In July 2020, when Marcie came out, everyone was isolated to one degree or another… Continue reading Isolation
This Stuff is Hard
Some folks have said they’re surprised I’m not more stressed, not put out by Marcie’s changes. This impression could be because when I talk to others I stress the good things that have happened. I emphasize how I’ve adapted and adjusted because I love her. Marcie rarely says, “thank you”, but she often says, “I’m… Continue reading This Stuff is Hard
Cheryl B Thompson 