Greetings. It’s been almost five and a half years since I began writing about Marcie’s journey from male cross dresser to female. In the beginning I journaled. The first year I wrote over 73,000 words. I turned those words and many more into a book. While waiting for publication, I began to blog. My first… Continue reading Hiatus
Category: LGBTQ+
This blog focuses on issues related to cisgender wives, family members and friends of trans women.
Expansion on the Idea of the ‘Pink Fog’
I recognize I have released this post much later than anticipated. The reason for this is that on August 21st a car rear ended me when I was stopped at a light. The impact of the collision centered on my lower back and pelvis and moved these bones out of alignment. My chiropractor continues to… Continue reading Expansion on the Idea of the ‘Pink Fog’
Our Own Needs
All of us, and maybe those who are cisgender partners to transgender folk more than others, must pay attention to our own needs. As with putting on our oxygen mask first, before helping someone beside us, we should insure we maintain our own mental and physical health. Our job is not easy. We have a… Continue reading Our Own Needs
Updated Suggestions for Surviving Gender-Affirming Surgery
I had originally planned for this post to continue with the previous discussion of the Pink Fog. However, Marcie had a surgical repair of her right rotator cuff last Thursday. From that experience l learned a few things that may be of value before your spouse has any type of surgery. These fresh thoughts seemed… Continue reading Updated Suggestions for Surviving Gender-Affirming Surgery
The Pink Fog
“The Pink Fog” was one of the first words/phrases I heard when examining online resources referencing the experience of being trans gender. The overarching impact of the Pink Fog is an impairment in one’s decision making capability. The most commonly mentioned behavior was that of shopping sprees without boundaries, regardless of financial or other considerations.… Continue reading The Pink Fog
My Sexual Orientation Journey*
This blog post will use background information, concepts and definitions, from “Inside my Husband’s Closet1 to explore my self-perceived sexual orientation. Am I heterosexual because sexual orientation can’t be change? Am I lesbian since my spouse is now a woman? Or am I something else? For most of my life I considered myself heterosexual. Once… Continue reading My Sexual Orientation Journey*
Pictures of the Past
This blog will explore the management of pictures of your spouse from before they began presenting as trans. I will not address pictures of kids or teens as they are dealing with different issues and this is not an area in which I have experience. This content comes more from my memory and conversations with… Continue reading Pictures of the Past
“Coming Out” in a Polarized Religious Context
Bishop Peggy Johnson, a friend and retired bishop of the United Methodist Church, has been kind enough to provide a blog in honor of “National Coming Out Day”. Many thanks Peggy, for your friendship, wisdom, and many years of leadership. Happy Anniversary to you and Mary. “National Coming Out Day” is an annual LGBT awareness… Continue reading “Coming Out” in a Polarized Religious Context
Appearance After FFS (Facial Feminization Surgery) (1)
As with all of my blogs I share them with Marcie prior to publication. She often has valuable input but has never asked that I not include ideas that may be uncomfortable to one or both of us. This particular topic had a greater potential of creating anxiety in her due to my blunt honesty.… Continue reading Appearance After FFS (Facial Feminization Surgery) (1)
Waiting
Sometimes I get so tired of living in a trans relationship. These emotion have nothing to do with a lack of love for Marcie. They have nothing to do with not accepting her as a woman. They do have to do with what it takes to make her transition a reality. And my story doesn’t… Continue reading Waiting
Cheryl B Thompson 