This blog post will use background information, concepts and definitions, from “Inside my Husband’s Closet1 to explore my self-perceived sexual orientation. Am I heterosexual because sexual orientation can’t be change? Am I lesbian since my spouse is now a woman? Or am I something else? For most of my life I considered myself heterosexual. Once… Continue reading My Sexual Orientation Journey*
Author: Cheryl
Pictures of the Past
This blog will explore the management of pictures of your spouse from before they began presenting as trans. I will not address pictures of kids or teens as they are dealing with different issues and this is not an area in which I have experience. This content comes more from my memory and conversations with… Continue reading Pictures of the Past
“Coming Out” in a Polarized Religious Context
Bishop Peggy Johnson, a friend and retired bishop of the United Methodist Church, has been kind enough to provide a blog in honor of “National Coming Out Day”. Many thanks Peggy, for your friendship, wisdom, and many years of leadership. Happy Anniversary to you and Mary. “National Coming Out Day” is an annual LGBT awareness… Continue reading “Coming Out” in a Polarized Religious Context
Appearance after FFS (2)
This post is a follow up to my first one on Appearance after Facial Feminization Surgery. This one focuses on my wife’s second surgery, the procedures done on her lower face included modifications to her jaw and chin, as well as cheek implants. I began to write this six weeks after her surgery and finished… Continue reading Appearance after FFS (2)
Appearance After FFS (Facial Feminization Surgery) (1)
As with all of my blogs I share them with Marcie prior to publication. She often has valuable input but has never asked that I not include ideas that may be uncomfortable to one or both of us. This particular topic had a greater potential of creating anxiety in her due to my blunt honesty.… Continue reading Appearance After FFS (Facial Feminization Surgery) (1)
Waiting
Sometimes I get so tired of living in a trans relationship. These emotion have nothing to do with a lack of love for Marcie. They have nothing to do with not accepting her as a woman. They do have to do with what it takes to make her transition a reality. And my story doesn’t… Continue reading Waiting
Isolation
My sister called me a week ago (May 2024) to say she’d read my book. She expressed appreciation for how hard this revelation must have been, but then focused on the feelings of isolation that came through in my writing. In July 2020, when Marcie came out, everyone was isolated to one degree or another… Continue reading Isolation
Use of Pronouns and Misgendering
The current controversy over the use of pronouns is not the first time, nor probably the last time, this country will disagree on the proper way to address a given individual. I happen to be of an age that I remember when the term Ms. came into vogue in the 1970s. Some people refused to… Continue reading Use of Pronouns and Misgendering
This Stuff is Hard
Some folks have said they’re surprised I’m not more stressed, not put out by Marcie’s changes. This impression could be because when I talk to others I stress the good things that have happened. I emphasize how I’ve adapted and adjusted because I love her. Marcie rarely says, “thank you”, but she often says, “I’m… Continue reading This Stuff is Hard
Social Transitioning B
After loading my last post into WordPress and reading it again, I realized I’d brought forth too much of my academic side to the discussion. I basically described how Marcie socially transitioned, not how I felt about it. I thought about editing the first blog to introduce more emotion but I liked the former ending… Continue reading Social Transitioning B
Cheryl B Thompson 